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  1. This is excellent!
    I’m not sure what you’ve got planned for this series, but some insight into estimating the effectiveness/fit of one’s therapist would be great. I feel like the vast majority of the time, I have a very hard time determining objectively how therapy is going and how my therapist is working for me . . .

  2. I’m with Melanie! It’s also good to see that therapists would want feedback. I never felt comfortable with my last therapists and after about 6 weeks of pushing myself and only ending up feeling worse, I quit, but I didn’t formally break up with her. She was just so nice and you could tell she meant well… but she wasn’t a good fit for me.

    1. Ugh, I’m sorry you never felt comfortable with your last therapist. I’ve had that experience, too, and it does sometimes seem easier to disappear than to confront them with your concerns. Ok, I’m gonna drum up something about this thanks to your and Melanie’s suggestion. 🙂

  3. I find it amusing I experienced both of the problems that you mentioned, each with a different therapist.
    My CA therapist shared a waiting room with a bunch of other therapists, and one of them had this awful smelling candle. We ended up switching my therapy day to the day that therapist wasn’t in the office.
    One of my NH therapists thought that my reaction to being in constant chronic pain was somehow related to childhood trauma. I never really got that one, but she was fine when I finally said, “Can we move on?”

    1. I hadn’t ever thought about the candle thing until I was at a party with a friend and she got a migraine from their candles. Now I’m cautious about lighting my candles when people are coming over. I had a therapist who kept insisting that part of my problem was our homeschooling (this was before we adopted Madison and I was there to deal with my inferility so I could understand she was concerned that I was too wrapped up in Noah). I thought about what she said and decided she was wrong so I told her it wasn’t up for discussion. She agreed and we moved on. I liked that she was honest about her thoughts but also that she respected my right to decide for myself and it’s something I’ve taken with me as a therapist.

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